(NewsUSA) - We all want to connect with those we love. But with our busy lives, it seems hard to find the time and energy to create meaningful and memorable ways to stay close. Often, we plan for major events - festive holiday dinners, class reunions, long-awaited vacations - and hope that these times will make lasting memories. Planning major events can be stressful, as anyone who's tried to speed-defrost a frozen-as-a-glacier turkey knows. And often, travel, budget and time constraints keep loved ones from coming together.

Fortunately, there are ways to stay close that don't involve ironing the tablecloth, losing the pre-class-reunion pounds, or going through security checks. People don't need an elaborate event to feel connected. They want to feel valued for who they are and for what they bring to your relationship.

Birthdays and holidays are natural times to give expressions of affection. But at those times, gift-giving can seem obligatory. "Another gift card from a major chain store - I feel so loved and affirmed for who I am!"

An even more meaningful way to connect is to surprise someone for no reason at all. Give a little something that shows your loved one you see and appreciate the qualities that make her unlike anyone else. Fun, relevant, lasting ways to say "I know what you're going through, and I'm here for you" are as close as your local Hallmark Gold Crown Store.

* When your kids are going to your mom's for the weekend, send them with a "What Happens at Grandma's Stays at Grandma's" pillow. Show your mom you value the unique and fun relationship she has with your kids.

* To encourage your over-committed, triple-espresso-shot-latte-addicted friend to unwind, give her the "Note to Self: Stop Volunteering for Stuff" mug along with a tin of delicious decaf.

* When your neighbor is suffering from the Trying-to-Be-Perfect syndrome, give her the "What if success is just getting the laundry in the dryer before mildew sets in?" shadowbox along with some luxurious bath salts.

* When your son aces his spelling test, give him a shiny, plush guitar that says "You Rock!" along with a favorite new CD.

Lee Franklin is a mom, a sister, a daughter, a friend -; and a 20-year Hallmark Cards veteran. She specializes in writing real words for the real world. Read more tips from Lee at www.hallmark.com/experts.