One topic that comes up probably more than any other is "how to get my husband to help out more". While it would be nice to offer a one-size-fits-all solution that's just too tall of an order to fill. You probably know him better than anyone else. His likes, dislikes, general outlook on life, etc.

For some guys, they just might not be aware that they are truly needed in a greater capacity than to be the primary breadwinner. Their upbringing may have been such that Mom takes care of the house and Dad goes out to work. We certainly have plenty of '50's and '60's television shows to thank for this. They sure made it look easy huh? But times are different now. Mom is now often trying to work from home in addition to her household chores and it doesn't always quite click that help is needed to accomplish all of this.

Frankly, this was never a big problem in our house. My husband and I are partners in everything and we have a very close relationship based on sharing, trust, and love. Everything we do is for the good of the family as a whole. Since I suffer regular bouts of serious depression I sometimes become relatively non-functional. It is at these times that the true strength of our family is tested and ultimately prevails. Everyone pulls together and carries a bit more than their share of the load in order to lessen the burden. It works!

It's age-old wisdom that a house divided amongst itself cannot stand. If a family member be it a husband, wife, or even a child is selfish and self-centered then the whole family suffers. If this the situation in your home then only you can best know how to deal with it. One thing's for sure; blaming, guilting, and nagging don't work except to drive a wedge between you. If you've done all you can to talk things out in a calm and mature manner then perhaps some professional help is in order.

In closing and not to sound negative but reality is what reality is. Past experience has shown me that sometimes you're stuck with what you have and nothing you say or do can change another person's attitude. In a case like this you can only choose to either deal with it as such or move on.